ARE YOU GRIEVING THE LOSS OF A LOVED ONE OR GRIEVING A CHANGE IN YOUR LIFE?
The most predictable thing about life is that it’s unpredictable. Change happens. Sometimes we plan our life changes; more often they are thrust upon us by people or forces beyond our control. Someone we loves dies. Our marriage ends despite all our best efforts. We lose our job. Our health declines suddenly. Loved ones make life choices we can’t understand.
SIGNS YOU MAY BE HAVING DIFFICULTIES WITH LOSS OR CHANGE
- Changes in sleeping patterns
- Change in appetite – eating too much or not enough
- Problems with focus and concentration
- “Grief Bursts” – from time to time your emotions come tumbling out
- Feeling unable to invest in life
“You will lose someone you can’t live without, and your heart will be badly broken, and the bad news is that you never completely get over the loss of your beloved. But this is also the good news. They live forever in your broken heart that doesn’t seal back up. And you come through. It’s like having a broken leg that never heals perfectly—that still hurts when the weather gets cold, but you learn to dance with the limp.” – Anne Lamott
Change is especially difficult when our loss is something or someone we had valued and enjoyed. We feel like the world no longer make sense. It can be hard to get up in the morning. And when we do arise there may be a pervading sadness that we can’t shake. We’ve noticed that our concentration is poor, and our energy level is low. We are either eating too much or not enough. Our emotions get away on us. We wonder if we can ever enjoy life again.
RIDING THE TSUNAMI OF CHANGE: NO TWO PEOPLE ARE THE SAME
One of the myths of North American culture is that we have ultimate control over our lives. In reality we are all affected by forces beyond our control – other’s choices, economic changes, disease, and death. The only control we have is how we respond and reinvest in ourselves after these life altering changes.
The other North American myth is that it’s best to just “suck it up and move on”. Sometimes there are complicated issues around loss that prevent us from moving on. Survivors of loss often find themselves dwelling in guilt, regret or unfinished business that prologues and even stops the process of grieving.
In reality we all need time to process loss and change. A job loss can be an open door to a better life…but you need time and wisdom to figure that out. And, if a loved one has died, does the mourning end the memorial service or funeral? Mourning takes time and no two people go through change or mourning in the same way.
Yet, what is certain is that there is a healthy want to go through change or grief, and an unhealthy way. Which one you choose, even by default can dictate the quality of your life from this point onward. There is hope for the future but its new territory and you need a roadmap.
A NEW WAY THROUGH TO A NEW DAY: THE CHOICE IS YOURS!
The roadmap through grief, loss and life transition is different for everyone. What isn’t different is that we all need someone who can offer us understanding, grace and wisdom in the journey. If you learn the skill of managing grief and change in one area of your life, you will have that skill in all parts of your life from this point forward. It is one of the most powerful skills you can learn in life! My process with you will be as a wise companion to help you find your way to a new day, so that you can stay present to how much life has to offer and what new possibilities await you!
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